Fresh starts
Fresh starts
There's a reason the hype around "new school/uni year" is there - we all need a sense of a fresh start, which usually brings with it a burst of focus/energy. It's good to have the past in the past. And choose the memories you want to keep and enjoy.
I find the knack is to then continue to keep "stuff"(physical, emotional) minimal as we go into the autumn when we're indoors more often and there are fewer daylight hours.
Carve out an hour to consider your fresh start -
Name 2 goals you want to achieve in the next 3 months - anything, doesn’t have to be “big”
On a scale of 1 to 4 how motivated do you feel to make changes?
Have a look at my website: https://www.canalsidecoach.app/goals-in-2024
Updated: 1 week ago
Blackberry picking
End of August and I've been blackberry picking in the local lanes - purple stained fingers, dripping juice - and my memories fold back in time...
to a year when working with a friend who is no longer here... I can reflect on her good heart and riproaring laugh which brightened the day
to the 1960s with my sister, when clinging to each other using the stepping stones in a fast runnning Scottish burn to get to the other side, then proudly presenting our haul to Mum - with the expectation of a blackberry and apple pie to enjoy that night! (enjoyed with the Italian gelato from the legendary local ice cream parlour)
Our sense of smell and taste carry us back to pinpricks in time - how wonderful to be able to feel that pure happiness, as well as honour the love of a true friend.
To use your senses in a positive way, learn some Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques: the 5 main NLP Representation Systems are Visual (sight), Auditory (hearing), Kinesthetic (bodily sensations), Olfactory (smelling), and Gustatory (tasting). These last 2 work for me every time!
Canalside Life Coach uses NLP - https://www.canalsidecoach.app/nlp-in-a-few-words
Updated: 2 weeks ago
Feeling invisible in a world obsessed with youth?
Feeling invisible in a world obsessed with youth?
Let's celebrate the power and wisdom that come with age.
There is a swelling wave of testimony from those over 50, 60, 70, 80 and, yes, also 90 determined to be heard and seen in order to combat negative societal messages about ageing and what it means to BE a certain age.
Even to actively claim to look the age you really are - rather than airbrush or botox it!
Reading a few articles and understanding this empowers you to reassess your validity and reframe your self-perception - and even self-worth - as a human with experience of living.
You are valuable and have so much to offer
If that statement has any crinkles when it lands in your mind - it's time to stop and evaluate where you are, how you are and who you are now.
As a professional life coach, I will help you unlock some ideas that will make a difference in your life.
https://www.canalsidecoach.app
COMING SOON! mini e - book LifeLift©️ Guide for Jaded over 50s©️
Updated: 4 days ago
Don't underestimate the power of a listening ear
Don't underestimate the power of a listening ear
As your life coach, I'll be there for you every step of the way, offering support and accountability
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explore & work towards a fresh outlook
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make positive changes and feel better about yourself, whatever age over 50 you have reached
You will feel able to tackle issues that may have been holding you back - from making a choice or a big change in your life.
Whatever life has thrown at you so far, you will benefit from a deep dive into what really matters to you and learn how to ease into positive feelings for your future.
You may wish to consider a bespoke package over as many weeks or months as you wish with the LifeLift©️ for Jaded over 50s tailored programme with one to one coaching, bespoke activities and coaching support via phone/email/text at your pace
Check out Booking Coaching Sessions with Canalside Life Coach at: https://www.canalsidecoach.app/booking-coaching-sessions
Updated: 1 week ago
Transactional Analysis (TA)
Transactional Analysis (TA) is helpful in coaching
Scripts and Life Positions:
Life Scripts: These have an impact on our choices and behaviour.
Example: Someone with a "Loser" script might sabotage their own success.
Identify your Life Script: TA has tools for recognizing and understanding your own script.
"Re-scripting": Changing Your Script to rewrite limiting life scripts and adopt empowering beliefs.
Applying TA in personal development:
Communication Strategies: Practical tips using TA to improve communication; adopting active listening, "I" statements.
Example: Avoid "Parent" language that criticizes or belittles.
Personal Growth: TA can help you achieve self-awareness and personal development.
Healthy Relationships: TA can strengthen relationships with family, friends, and colleagues.
Understanding the PAC model:
The Three modes of operation or Egos: Parent, Adult, and Child ego states
Parent Ego State - behaviours, beliefs, values, deisres, identities, thoughts and feelings taken on (not always wittingly)from parents or parent figures.
Adult Ego State - behaviours, thoughts and feelings which are direct responses to the here and now.
Child Ego State - behaviours, beliefs, values, deisres, identities, thoughts and feelings developed in and replayed from childhood.
Transactional Patterns:
Complementary Transactions: complementary transactions maintain the status quo.
Example: A teacher (Parent) asks a student (Child) a question, and the student (Child) answers (Child).
Crossed Transactions: create confusion and conflict.
Example: A manager (Parent) asks an employee (Adult) a question, but the employee (Child) responds with sarcasm (Child).
Ulterior Transactions: Uncover hidden agendas and manipulative communication patterns.
Example: Someone offers a compliment (Parent) but expects something in return (Child).
I am qualified and certified in Advanced Coaching – with Processes for Personal & Professional Transformation [nlp school], which included TA and Re-scripting: https://www.canalsidecoach.app
Book a free call: https://ui.canalsidecoach.app
Updated: 3 weeks ago
Frothy pink July
Frothy pink July
At last the honeysuckle
grapples through the tree
Reaching skyward
beside the frothy pink of
the flowering almond
Chicks are chirping on the rooftops
watching the parent sparrows below
nipping at seeds in the feeder
To and fro
to and fro
to and fro
Updated: 1 week ago
Working through transitions in life
Working through transitions in life
Call it a change, a challenge or whatever else, we all have to cope with transitions in life - whether chosen or not.
How do we do that? Making meaning in our lives is the key - can we give meaning to a difficult situation?
a meaning making bridge can be devised, either in small steps
or, if you need to, a bigger effort to tackle some fundamentals if you have not had to do that before (or in this particular way)
HOW?
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face reality
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look ahead
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see bigger picture or reframe as opportunity
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new goals
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balanced view - don't take failure or challenge personally
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build and maintain resilience
If you need a guide through this, I can help
Updated: 2 months ago
I take a pause on the garden bench
I take a pause on the garden bench
It's the end of May, just about Bank Holiday Monday time...and predictably it's cool and breezy, with no sun here in Kings Norton for the last 3 days.
The honeysuckle is hovering in the air, the spurt of growth from a bit of heat a week ago, yet the flowers are not quite ready to come out and perfume the air, attracting bees - and me, as I take a pause on the garden bench.
I will wait for the warmth and the sun.
Updated: 3 months ago
A little known response to stress
A little known response to stress
is that a neuro-hormone called oxytocin is released.
It protects the cardiovascular system, is anti-inflammatory, helps blood vessels relax and cells in the body to heal and strengthen. It is enhanced by social contact and social support - the more we reach out, the more oxytocin is released.
Through human connection, we can have personal resilience - trust that you can handle inevitable stress and you can aim for meaning in your life.
This amazing hormone fine-tunes our brain's SOCIAL instincts, priming us to do things that strengthen social relationships, enhancing empathy - we notice when someone else is struggling, even as we feel stressed about (possibly) the same external factors. We become willing to help and support people we care about.
It also motivates us to seek support, to tell someone how we feel.
Remember it can give immediate relief to seek professional help - set up a session to talk with a life coach, or for more deep seated issues in your past, a therapist for guidance and support.
https://www.canalsidecoach.app
Reference: How to make stress your friend | Kelly McGonigal, TED talk
Updated: 3 months ago
Setting boundaries is important
Setting boundaries is important - especially when experiencing exhaustion or burnout
Remember a little positive change in your thinking and behaviour each day makes a difference.
If your body is very stressed, it may be more of a challenge to even consider making changes - yet as you live each day, changes are happening!
The knack to balancing your life is to blend the needs of the body and the mind.
When working towards the outcomes you want, remember you need self compassion along with application - as a coach, I am here to help you kindly encourage you to trust yourself to keep going.
Setting boundaries is important - especially when experiencing exhaustion or burnout.
Learn how to set boundary goals, gently practice assertive communication skills, and work through feelings you might have when you say "No."
Remember it can give immediate relief to seek professional help - set up a session to talk with a life coach, or for more deep seated issues in your past, a therapist for guidance and support.
https://www.canalsidecoach.app
Updated: 3 months ago
Gardeners hands
Gardeners Hands
after an unusually hot (for Kings Norton in Birmingham, UK!) day early in May, I look down at my gardeners hands and
what do I see?
dirt under the nails, a couple of scratches on my arms - as the light of the sun going down shows the white lilac almost glowing alongside the honeysuckle reaching for the sky as it climbs the fence
and what do I hear?
short chirrups, a trio of tweets and the sweet song of a blackbird high on a chimney
and what do I feel?
the gloaming* is alive with life as May bursts in on us, full of promise and growth.
*as used by Scots: meaning twilight, dusk
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Updated: 3 months ago
Use the season - find your flow
Canalside walks, good for the body and mind
Use the season - find your flow
Being aware of the natural world around you that informs your very being will help you sensitise to priorities...
Are the birds gathering bits to build a nest? Are the goslings splashing after their Mum in the canal?
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WORKING WITH THE CANALSIDE COACH GIVES SPACE TO REFLECT, BOOST THE POSITIVES AND ACHIEVE YOUR OUTCOMES
Updated: 3 months ago
Our robin sings in next door's tree
Early May morning in Kings Norton, Birmingham - sunny, warm and a refreshing breeze
Our robin sings in next door's tree, after waiting patiently for all the other birds to eat their fill - the two gangs of sparrows, some swinging on the feeders, others dancing around in the grass below alongside the lone blackbird and the young fieldfare.
I miss last year's robin who had only one leg, hopping nearer the back door, spotting little snacks behind the pots.
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WORKING WITH THE CANALSIDE COACH GIVES SPACE TO REFLECT, BOOST THE POSITIVES AND ACHIEVE YOUR OUTCOMES!
Updated: 3 months ago
Worklife - what does it mean to you?
What is worklife?
I put the words together because anything that happens in life, we have to work for it or towards it...think of it as where you focus your energy.
So paid work is just an aspect of your whole life. We have unpaid work that is "the rest of our life".
How do you think about your "worklife"?
Do you value the unpaid aspects?
Do you identify solely as the job you do that is paid?
There is a significant part of the world's activities exploding with the idea that only your job matters - is this true? Do you consider other things in your life to matter?
How can you balance it all?
If you need a nudge and guide, I'm here to help:
https://www.canalsidecoach.app
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Updated: 3 weeks ago
Knitting at the front of the boat
Canalside walks, good for the body and mind
Knitting at the front of the boat
Towards the Guillotine Lock at Kings Norton in Birmingham (the only one in the world!) the canal boat slows,
the hand on the tiller easing and assessing the distance before there will be only 3 fingers widths on either side.
A couple of others giving advice, shouting how far to go....
and quietly at the front, a woman sitting inside, serenely knitting
Calm, methodical...redolent of days of old, women knitting wherever they are.
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Updated: 3 months ago
7 types of Rest
Are you getting enough of each of these 7 types of rest?
- as you read through, jot down a score between 1 and 4 - then you can have a think about answering the question above
Physical: Being able to use the body in positive ways to decrease muscle tension, reduce headaches, and promote higher quality sleep
Mental: the ability to quiet the chatter in your mind and focus on what matters to you
Emotional: the freedom to express your authentic feelings and remove people-pleasing tendencies
Social: the wisdom to recognize relationships that rejuvenate from ones that drain and how to limit exposure to toxic people
Sensory: the opportunity to downgrade sensory input received from electronics, background noise, crowds, sources like fragrances and food
Creative: the experience of allowing beauty to inspire wonder and curiosity
Spiritual: the capacity to experience a higher purpose and deeper meaning in your life
Take some space to consider one small step towards resting...
Inspired by "Sacred Rest: Recover Your life, Renew Your energy, Restore Your Sanity"(https://ichoosemybestlife.com/sacred-rest/) by Saundra Dalton-Smith
For support in your journey to a more rested life, I'm here for you: https://www.canalsidecoach.app
Updated: 3 months ago
Keeping going over 60
Keeping going over 60
The pandemic and all it's whirlwind of changes in home and work life meant I didn't stop to think of the so called milestone of reaching my 60th birthday. I wonder how many others are feeling the same?
It's made me think about properly pausing to have a deep think about how I navigate the next few years. The challenges most of us face once over 60 include:
Health: changes in physical and mental health can make overcoming obstacles more draining.
Retirement: adjusting to a new routine and missing the structure of work can be demotivating.
Loss: grieving loved ones or facing a change in living circumstances can drain energy and purpose.
Ageism: societal messages about aging can make feeling down about challenges more likely.
SO: HOW CAN WE STAY MOTIVATED?
some ideas and inspiration - just reading the words can help your mind open up:
Focus on progress, not perfection: celebrate small wins to maintain momentum.
Find a purpose: volunteer, take up a new hobby, or reconnect with old passions.
Stay connected: build a strong support network of friends, family, or online communities.
Embrace lifelong learning: take courses, attend workshops, or read inspiring content.
Prioritize self-care: get enough sleep, eat healthily, and manage stress through exercise and /or relaxation techniques.
Reframe challenges: view setbacks as opportunities to learn and grow.
Celebrate resilience: acknowledge how you've overcome challenges in the past.
Focus on strengths: recognize the skills and experience gained over a lifetime.
Maintain a positive attitude: gratitude and optimism can fuel motivation.
If you're finding some of the above hard to do, find connection in your network of friends, family, or via online communities.
Remember it can give immediate relief to seek professional help - set up a session to talk with a life coach, or for more deep seated issues in your past, a therapist for guidance and support.
https://www.canalsidecoach.app
Updated: 4 days ago
When Life feels hard
When Life feels hard
Whether occasionally or frequently, we all need someone who gives encouragement and allows us to flourish.
I am a positive supporter of anyone who feels a bit lost. I will validate and acknowledge you.
There are times we face situations that feel beyond our control. Sometimes we sense we have lost our way and even who we are.
You may be asking where do I go next? How do I move on after all that has happened to me?
Your major life transition could be: bereavement, illness, moving home, job change, different country/language, changes around family life such as older parents, partner, children - or anything that is a major shift in your life right now
WHAT YOU CAN DO WHEN LIFE FEELS HARD
"Where could you find support that you aren't getting right now?"
Warmth, kindness and wisdom - if you need these, I am here
I am positive, encouraging and patient. I will work at your pace to discover ways to access your inner resources, your energy and focus.
If you feel you've lost yourself along life's journey, now is the time to take a breath and be at ease.
Updated: 3 months ago
Daffodils Dancing
Canalside walks, good for the body and mind
Daffodils dancing
The pink sky peace at the end of an ordinary day
Ripples in the water reflecting the light as it fades
A blackbird sings
small moments of joy, just being
and daffodils dancing, first signs of Spring…
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Updated: 1 month ago
A dog called Tig
Canalside walks, good for the body and mind
A dog called Tig
She called him and used her whistle, but still the dog sniffed and searched - for a stick, she said, always for a stick.
In the end we talked for ten minutes, as Tig had gone so far up the canalside path that we couldn't see him.
There were no sticks, so he came back, circling us and saying hello to me - a new friend.
Tig was happy, back with his owner and ready to go the other way - who knows, maybe there's a stick just waiting to be found?
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Updated: 1 month ago